The beautiful Jennifer Lopez graces October’s issue of Elle Magazine and speaks candidly about not getting pregnant right away, on first discovering she was pregnant and on relishing the experience of her pregnancy after her tour because she wasn’t sure if she wanted more kids or not.

She refers to taking the time to take care of herself as “a little bit selfish”.  She isn’t the first woman to express self-care that way, yet there is nothing wrong with taking care of your health first.  We women always feel like we have to apologize for it. 

Do you agree?

Click on continued reading for the interview and picture of her with Donatella Versace in a beautiful Versace dress.

On Dolce and Gabbana: “My babies! I love them, I love them, I love them.”

On Donatella Versace: “We’ve always had a very sweet relationship. I really got to know her more after her brother had died.”

On Georgina Chapman: “She could be a model—but meanwhile she’s down there pinning and sewing all these things all over you!”

On shooting in Washington Heights with Oscar de la Renta: “We were in the hoody! All kinds of locals hanging around, eating out of paper bags, thinking, what’s going on here? It was crazy.”

On being pregnant and commissioning a book of photos of herself for Marc two weeks before giving birth: “I was like, How am I going to rock this moment of my life?… I felt very womanly. Marc was in a dream. He loved it.”

On not being able to get pregnant right away: “We knew nothing was wrong with either one of us—I had been checked, and he had kids already. I knew Something’s not ready here, in my head or in my life, and when it is, I know it’s going to happen.”

On first realizing she was pregnant: “I was sitting down doing hair and makeup and I felt a flutter. The weirdest little…flourish. My makeup artist said ‘What’s the matter?’ I didn’t say anything, but in my head, I was like, I have life inside me!”

On her pregnancy: “We came off tour and I said ‘I did the superwoman thing, I finished the tour—now I need you to take care of me. I love doing things for you; if I’m not cooking, then I’m picking out a shirt. But this is the first time in my life where I’m just going to be a little bit selfish. I don’t know if I’m going to have kids again, so I want it to be a beautiful experience. I don’t want to have any drama. I want to just be smiling every day.’”